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Many people have been asking me this since I was pregnant until now.
Caesarean or natural birth?
I took quite a long time to consider. Which is better? What are pros and cons? What would be the best option for my baby and me? After 2 months of consideration, I chose to go for caesarean birth or C-section.
You might want to stop reading this entry now if you are planning to give birth anytime soon, especially natural birth.
Before I continue writing this post, I have something to say to some people who are/were against my personal decision here.
I already got comments like “why not natural? Isn’t it better for your baby? etc.” or some people even gave me THAT kind of look, like as if it was wrong for me to do it. I’m telling you now that your such comments doesn’t mean anything to me, especially when you don’t know me. Every new mother have to go through 9 months of pregnancy, childbirth, and a lot more real work after that. If you haven’t been through it, just listen. Or if you had a natural birth before and it was tough then that was your choice. But it doesn’t mean my choice is wrong and I should go through the same thing as you. And after all, it’s my life not yours. My baby, not yours.
However, I thank and appreciate those comments from people who really care and try to help NOT those that acting like they know everything and they are always right. Please. No one is always right.
Ok that’s enough. So what made me choose to go for a C-section?
1) Caesarean can be scheduled.
Because my husband travels a lot. What happen if my water broke when he is many thousands miles away from me? This is one way we can be sure that both of us will go through this together.
2) Disadvantage of a natural birth.
True that the recovering period is much shorter with natural birth. You just need 1 day to stay in a hospital and 1-2 weeks for full recovery when C-section needs at least 3 days, and 1-2 months for full recovery (also depends on the individual).
According to 8 women (I know personally) who have gone through a natural birth, they said that their private parts do not look the same after a natural birth. In fact, they said it will never be exactly the same. Even if you have only 1 sleeping partner for the rest of your life and you wouldn’t care? Maybe. But I believe most of us do care. However, health science and medical technology has improved a lot so there might be a solution for that too. I don’t know.
What about a scar on lower stomach after C-section? I know I will have my way out for that. A secret for now. Plus, I trust my Gynae a lot. She is great and famous for her C-section. My scar looks fine and not as bad as I thought it would be. Thank you.
3) Pain Level
I’d rather feel the most pain after and NOT during labour which I don’t know how long it will last. I had an epidural and I was awake during the C-section. (you can choose to sleep throughout the whole process but you won’t be the first to see your baby). I didn’t feel any pain at all during the process, not even when they jabbed an epidural into my spine to numb sensation and provide pain relief before they cut me open. Some mothers also take an epidural during their natural birth if they can’t stand the pain.
However, the pain came the next day when I woke up. Very painful, my wound. I couldn’t eat much and definitely couldn’t move at all for at least a day. Let’s skip the part where I needed to go to a toilet. The worst part was when I coughed and my (seven layers cut) wound vibrated. I couldn’t describe how freaking painful it was. You imagine. But a good thing is, painkiller helps a lot.
4) It’s safe, for the baby.
Many of you might not know this. According to what my Gynae told me, caesarean is safer for baby but not good for a mother. The chance of getting wound infections is higher. There are seven layers of muscles doctor have to cut through during C-section. If the cord is around baby’s neck, it would be unsafe to do a natural birth too. And unfortunately, the cord was around my baby’s face and neck at 37th week. Even if I decided to go for a natural birth (which I most likely won’t), I’d have to do a C-section instead.
5) I consider a Caesarean as a modern way to have baby.
Women today have choice, something that women in the olden days did not have. Giving birth can be fast and safe with the used of latest technological equipments and so why not?
After all, I’m not saying that a natural birth is not a good choice and I’m just giving my personal opinions. It’s your choice so you should know the best for you and your baby. People who have gone through a natural birth is brave and tough. I admire them. Either way, the most important thing is to make sure your baby (and you) is safe.
Congratulation to every new mother. Let’s have fun, enjoy the process and keep the joy in motherhood.
Yes, I think you can guess.
I finally gave birth to a healthy baby girl.
Thankful for everything. That’s what I’m always praying for. I have to be honest.. My pregnancy was already considered quite good and smooth compared to some of my friends. Thanks god and people who always helping me out. I truly appreciate it. And I thank to myself too, for doing my best throughout this pregnancy. Forcing myself to eat stuffs I hate everyday (I drank at least 6-7 glasses of milk a day), giving up something I love, etc. It was all worth it.
That day when I was in a hospital waiting to give birth, I was scared, really scared. I have never felt so scared in my life till my body was uncontrollably shaking . Without courage from all the loved ones, it could be a lot harder than it was. That moment, his hands held my hands and helped me through it. Thank you.
Giving our little precious love and happiness is now one of my top priority. And to keep her healthy too of course. I will make mistakes and I will learn from it. Thank you father, mother, for raising me, and loving me. Never knew it would be so hard to become a parent until today and I know it’s just the beginning.
Enough said. here is my baby girl, Terena. And that’s how a first-born looks like.
First time in mummy’s hands. I cried.
They had to take her away from me to do all the weighing, measuring etc.
An hour later, my baby girl looks like this. Terena day 1.
Her head was the same size as my husband’s fist. So small, so fragile.
First time pumping out breast milk, in this bottle. I always thought mother’s milk is supposed to be white in color but I was wrong.
It may seem amazing but my breasts was in PAIN and I hate that feeling! Furthermore, I had to wake up every 3 hours to breastfeed since I was on full breastfeeding. I won’t lie. That part was bad, really bad.
And oh, I almost forgot to mention about my confinement period. IT WAS SUCK. To me, it was the worst. I’m not trying to scare you but it’s really like living in a jail. Can you imagine you can’t wash your hair for a week or a month and you can’t get out of your house at all? Yes, it happened to me. At least my confinement lady was more of a modern type so thanks god! I don’t think I can stand doing all those for one full month. I showered every 3-5 days with ginger water and I sneaked out a little bit, or maybe not just a little bit. However, I wore a long sleeve and long pant when I was out. In a confinement period, wind = your worst enemy.
A lot of complaining here. Don’t mind me. I’m just trying to share.
There will be more complaining in the future so be prepared for that too. But also more of good thing to share with. After all, I love being a mother. Who doesn’t anyway?
When it comes to baby shopping list, a new mum like me just want to buy everything I see in store windows but that’s definitely not a good idea.
I know it can be quite tough to resist your temptation when most baby things are really cute and you just want to spend it all, especially on baby girls. There are a few of baby items I bought and I don’t use them at all until now (or can’t use them anymore). My baby girl is growing so fast and those pretty tiny clothes I bought can only fit her for a week or two maximum. So I suggest every new mums to get only what you actually need for the start. Buy only a few items in newborn sizes because most babies grow out of them so quickly.
Here are the lists of what you’d probably need to buy for the arrival of your newborn, and also my recommendation on the products and brands.
- baby cot and cot bumper. And this is the one we bought. It goes really well with the designs of our place, no sharp corners, and with wheels!
- mattress and 2 fitted sheets
- 5 milk bottles I would recommend that you get 3 small ones and 2 large ones.
- Bottle & teat brush sterilizer
- bottle warmer. It will be very useful when your baby refuses to finish her milk at one go and it won’t be a waste too.
- formula milk. Even if you are full breastfeeding, it would be better have 1-2 standby.
- 3-4 nursing bras
- box of breast pads.
- Breast pump. I strongly recommend Medela Freestyle. Quite expensive (around $600 plus) but worth it.
- Nursing pillow. (ps. I use my pregnancy pillow instead since it works for me)
- 5-6 vests or body suits (short sleeves would be better for Singapore weather and try to avoid anything with zippers)
- 2 hats, 4 pairs of mittens and socks
- 2 lightweight blankets
- 5-6 muslins. This is very useful. To put under baby head when sleeping and you don’t have to change sheets if they spilt up, and on changing mats just in case your little one gives you those unexpected surprise. I also use this to wrap my newborn girl. Babies feel more secure that way.
- Baby bathtub. The one I bought is MY BEST BUY so far! It comes with a changing mat on top and useful storages to keep the baby stuff you need nearby such as diaper etc.
I got it from Isetan at Shaw House and it costs around SGD200-300.
- baby bath and shampoo. I strongly recommend QV bath oil for to body wash.
My baby has a sensitive skin so I’m pretty selective on such product.
- 2 big and 2 small towels
- 2 Small Tupperware. 1 for face and 1 for bottom.
- Sponge. I also use my hand to clean my baby as I can get into all the nooks and folds.
- Changing mat
- Diapers. Buy at least 2 big packs of newborn size.
- Diaper rash cream.
- Nappy wipes.
- Cotton wool. Buy more. You can never too much. I use this with water to clean my baby’s bottom and face for the first month as newborn baby has very sensitive skin.
- Cotton buds.
- Baby Carrier. I’m using BABYBJORN and it’s great. (tried Sling and it’s not for me)
- Baby monitor.
- Fever Thermometer.
- Yu Yee Oil. To relief wind on newborns and babies (apply on your tummy after bath) Pour 1-2 drop on your palms, rub your hand and then the baby’s tummy.
There are other things besides the above list you will need such as car seat, stroller, and etc. However, I don’t think you will need them until your baby is older than a month or two. Take time to consider and try more different products or brands before you decide to buy it.
ps.- I think 6-7 months of pregnancy is a good time to start shopping for your baby. At least that’s what I did.
I hope this helps for some of you, especially new mum-to-be. Good luck and enjoy your great journey. Feel free to share.
Those who follow my twitter or instagram should already know this.
I am now a mother and is something absolutely new. This already changes me, for the better. Let’s read.
My pregnancy experiences weren’t that bad (compared most people I know), except for those first three months. Morning sickness was making my life really miserable and it was more like all day sickness to me. I couldn’t concentrate on anything and my mood continued to be quite unstable for most of the day. I can go on days complaining about my morning sickness and how much I hate it.
The second trimester was somehow the best period of my pregnancy. I felt really fresh and appetite was great. My baby bump was getting bigger but it didn’t slow me down much until the starting of my third trimester. I had quite a hard time moving around, sitting down, getting up, and most importantly sleeping! You imagine.. My tummy was as huge as one super fat watermelon and I needed to go to a toilet every 2-3 hours (sometimes 1 hour) throughout the night. It wasn’t easy especially when I also experienced swollen feet.
This is how I look in the second trimester.
Below is my new best friend during pregnancy, a weighing scale. We meet everyday.
I’ve gained about 14-15 kilos in total.
There are also a lot of other things you are not allowed to (or prefer not to) do during pregnancy. It made me upset for quite a while. Everyone has different views on the pregnancy so I will not comment what’s right and what’s wrong here. Best is to trust what you know of yourself as well as your pregnancy experience.
These lists are applied for me.
- No raw food, means no sashimi and medium rare steak!
- No soft drinks, coffee, tea (except for chamomile), drinks that contain caffeine and alcohol, and too cold drinks.
- No hair coloring. But I did it, twice, with an organic hair color.
- No teeth whitening.
- Only light exercise is allowed. I do swimming and prenatal yoga twice a week.
But it’s not all that bad. There are good things too. For examples, a healthier lifestyle during pregnancy with lots of nap. I can eat a whole pint of chocolate ice cream and not feeling guilty. More shopping too. I’m never alone because my little one is with me all the time. And I get to see her once every month!
From a peanut size like this.
Till I know her sex.
Here is a 4D ultrasound of my baby at 7 months.
See picture below, my baby girl was sticking out her tongue while we did the scan. And she did that a few times! How playful.. *smiles*
When I was pregnant, I began praying for my little one.
To me, the best thing about being pregnant is watching. Watching our baby grow. Watching myself turn into a mother and my husband turn into a father.
And before I end this post I need to say this… again.
I’m really thankful to everyone around me who always gives me good support. My family (and in-laws), husband, friends and some strangers who is kind enough to me. My pregnancy has gone through smoothly because of them. I am very fortunate to have these people in my life.